YHWH MY TSUR- CHARACTER OF SELF-LOVE


16 TAMUZ 5778

CHOOSE A CHARCATER OF SELF-LOVE                                                                   


Let us Pray
ABBA יהוה (Yud-Heh-Vav-Heh {YHWH}) we thank You in the Mighty Shem {Name}- of Mashiyach Yeshua for Your Presence in our individual journeys. Toda {Thank You} for speaking to us in so many ways, ways that we never thought would be possible, but Elohim because we know You are the Aleph and Tav all things are possible with You. I personally am glad to have taken this Journey as it will lead me to You יהוה (Yud-Heh- Vav-Heh) and Your Purpose for my life; and I Hope that each person reading this will gain similar or even more. Please continue to Teach us and give us the Wisdom we need to carry on, in this road. We call unto You the Creator of Heavens and earth to soften our hearts and allow our Spiritual eyes and ears to open as we learn more about You. Please allow us to understand and follow Your ways. Allow us to put You first in everything that we do and make us understand what it means to put You first. Let this blog and the various pages within it Teach us something valuable that we can carry with us and carry it through to our children, and our children’s children. We say Toda Raba (Thank you very much) and pray in the Mighty Shem of Yeshua Ha Mashiyach. . Amen.  
 
 
We are today looking at genuine self-Love; not narcissism, arrogance, selfishness, pride but genuine self-love. When you do not Love yourself genuinely and prioritize yourself genuinely you can be your own worst enemy. Previously shared in this page were several topics focusing on Our Character and Character traits we should aspire to have. Two of the pages can be linked very closely to the current topic “Self-Love” and they can be found at the following: CHARACTER OF LOVE shared on the 23rd Iyar 5777
and
CHOOSE A CHARACTER OF WEAKNESS shared on the 19th IYAR 5778
https://ixoahbettefillah.blogspot.co.za/p/normal-0-false-false-false-en-za-x-none.html
 
Certain things happen in life, FOR EVERYONE BECAUSE FOR EVERYTHING THERE IS A SEASON, impacting our being and our mind, leading to a development of emotions, thoughts and actions, reactions etc. In the midst of experiences and emotions therein defences, personality and character traits develop. If they are not addressed in an adjusted manner these can lead to certain non-beneficial character traits, bad habits, personality pathologies and/or strongholds; these are very hard to overcome especially because we allow them within us and we accommodate them, deny them or avoid them.
 
Examples of emotions and experiences that can become non-beneficial character traits, bad habits, personality pathologies and/or strongholds include: anger, pride, dishonesty, sense of entitlement, rebellion, witchcraft (in our thoughts, words &actions), gossiping tongue, lies, deceit, fake-ness, being driven by what's on the outside and what society prioritises (looks, materials, achievements, power, positions, marital status, colour of skin, number of children or their gender, success, associations, entertainment), maliciousness, depression, emptiness, numbness, being judgemental, illusion of being irreplaceable or powerful, misery, loneliness, rejection, regret, guilt, pessimism, rebellion, attempt to be in control and control life, bitterness, perfectionism, selfishness, competitiveness, pain/hurt, grief, denial, dissociation, regression, acting out, self-rejection/hate, projection, passive aggression, desperation for Love, to fit in or for any other thing (looks, weight, skin colour, marital status, children) which you tend to make a small god….etc. These emotions, defences, strongholds, character and personality traits are usually indicators of deep rooted negative experiences and/or experienced. They need genuine attention. 
 
If we choose to hold on to these emotions, defences or personality traits; or we do not seek help or we deny or suppress or accommodate them without self-reflection and do not rely on YHWH to assist us or seek help from YHWH sent people these emotions/defenses/personality traits/characters can become strongholds or personality disorders or serious psychopathology; they can be part of our character and habitual behaviours that we choose even though they are destructive in our lives. They can become things satanas and rulers of darkness and all his principalities love to target and use in attempt to cause chaos in yours or other people’s lives.
 
When these previously mentioned occur and you choose to accommodate them they can cause such pain for you and those around. Yes you choose to accommodate them if you are not seeking help for them. And they grow becoming worse.   
 
When we develop such character traits, personality pathologies and/or strongholds they usually cause/ lead to or exacerbate/exaggerate a lack of self-Love. At times, Lack of Self Love was there in the first place due to painful experiences, but it can be exaggerated to a point of it becoming something very big. Lack of self-Love can manifest differently in people; as an Inferiority complex, aggression, anger, depression, bitterness, desperation, attempt to control, feeling empty within. Lacking Self Love can cause such heavy desperation for Love, to fit in, to belong or for any other thing (looks, weight, skin colour, marital status, children, materials) which you tend to make a small god.  
 
Traumatic situations or bad experiences can rob us of self-Love. When we don’t have self-Love we struggle with challenges in life especially that involve relationships. If you cannot relate with you genuinely, because of a lack of self-Love you tend to struggle to interact with others as they are. For example we tend to feel so empty and when we are empty we tend to attract empty people like ourselves, but we do not see them as empty. Instead we expect them to not be empty and to therefore see us for our worth and make us feel full. 
When you lack self-Love you likely tend to want to belong and be in relationships; yet you only have emptiness to offer in those relationships yet you expect the other to offer what you do not have ourselves. One who lacks self-Love tends to internalize perceptions that are exaggerated or not true promoting more lack of self-Love. For example someone with Lack of Self-Love feels rejected so deeply and feels like the only people rejected in the world. It’s an All or nothing type of thinking. 
 
You are the one person whom you will spend forever with, even in eternity. The married people its ‘til death do you part’. The children also will remain if you go or they go and you stay. Even if you die first in a relationship or family; when it is the second coming of Yeshua HaMashiyach you will be with yourself again. Therefore Truth is There is no escaping you. Wherever you go, even after death there you will be with you. So, you might as well take care of yourself. Love yourself, know yourself, accept yourself, and be comfortable with you.
 
If you are harbouring things from your past work on letting them go. Especially those that rob you of experiencing YHWH’s Shalom Fully. This includes lack of self-Love. 
If you are struggling with strongholds, personality pathologies or character traits that are not beneficial work on letting them go. They will rob you of self-Love which I believe is needed for you to experience YHWH’S Shalom.  
 
 
Everyday consciously work on whatever you struggle with. Just like an alcoholic who counts each sober day and they are an alcoholic for life; you consciously work on you, not taking anything you struggle with for granted!!! Work on renewing your mind Daily consciously (Romans12:2). The mind is spirit; it comprises of our thoughts, words, feelings, actions, reactions, lessons learnt, choices, emotions, perceptions, visions, attitudes, beliefs, dreams, determination, passion, focus, confidence, drive, lifestyle, priorities, things you allow to dwell in your heart and spirit, reasoning ability, imagination, priorities, awareness, subconscious, conscious etc. 
The mind is powerful, whatever you are experiencing now started in the mind! In the spiritual realm, so when dealing with things in the Physical, go there to the mind and spirit and spiritual realm.
 
Human beings do not like facing bad experiences; we tend to avoid, suppress, or develop defences. We do not like facing growth and at times emotions; it is not easy and it is panful. Sadly, ignoring emotions, avoiding them won’t make them disappear. Truth is not dealing with things puts you at risk to develop poor character traits, personality pathologies and/or strongholds. Hence you get people push things aside and only later in their lives do they have a breakdown about something that happened years back. Allow yourself to Heal. Face the emotions head on so you can move to the next step. It is actually beneficial for you to face what is happening head on, even the bad things and painful experiences. Because you need to sit with the pain for it to transcend and there is no shortcut. There is no escaping you or your mind (or spirit) or your experiences. 
 
Work on Loving you so you can be comfortable in your own skin and even beyond.
 
Understand that it is almost unfair to expect people to give you what you do not have within. Like expect Love from someone, yet you do not love yourself. If you want Love, start by Loving you. If you want others to see you as worthy start by seeing you as worthy. If you want tolerance start by tolerating you. It all starts and ends with you because you are the only thing you can control. I am not implying that everyone will Love you because you Love you. You will get those people who have their own issues. I am saying Love yourself first before expecting others to Love you. And when you get people who do not "Show Love" and it is likely you will meet such and you might hurt; but you if you have Self-Love, you are able to move on from such people without hopefully compromising yourself and you are not shattered in your foundation. If you lack Self-Love you likely do not know your worth and will probably do anything to keep a person who does not "Show you Love".
 
Why expect others to see you as worthy and Love you yet you can’t stand tolerate love or see or act worthy yourself. And also you won’t be able to Fully Genuinely without reservation Love others, if you do not Love you!  
 
It is difficult to comprehend Love if you lack it within. It is difficult to comprehend and be open to our ABBA’s unconditional Love if you don’t Love yourself unconditionally. You do not have to buy Love or to make people Love you. You do not have to make people stay or a job to happen or attempt to control anything outside of you. You do not need to control anything or anyone just aim to control yourself. Control and embrace your entire being including your mind which includes emotions such as self-Love. 
You need to trust ABBA YHWH to control and work on other things including you; you just need to do your bit in working on you under His authority. 
Our main task I believe is to work on ourselves continually until death; work under authority of YHWH and He does the rest. And when you do this you actually display a character of weakness (CHOOSE A CHARACTER OF WEAKNESS
https://ixoahbettefillah.blogspot.co.za/p/normal-0-false-false-false-en-za-x-none.html ). And when we are weak His Power will be perfected in us (2Corinthians12:8-10) and not before that.   
We struggle with being weak as human being because we are limited flesh and we want to control. We don’t like negative emotions/experiences so we deny/avoid/suppress/ignore/use our own limited reasoning and ability to solve. Yes you are limited. We need to be weak in YHWH Moving beyond crying and move from only asking Him for things; but saying to Him I do not know what I am doing and I let go and let You be in control YHWH in-spite of challenges I face. Let go fully surrender humble submit wait patiently while Serving Praising Worshipping Glorifying Him only. 
 
I believe Character of self-Love is required for one to receive Shalom from YHWH and for one to also be able to be weak in YHWH. Because if you don’t have self-Love I believe you will constantly be out there searching to fill the emptiness you feel within, in your way, because you lack self-Love. You will always try to bring people in your life, make them stay when they should leave, go shopping for materials, have babies to fill a void, be a workaholic, self-medicate, try to buy Love, etc. because you cannot stand to be within your skin alone and with your thoughts. Being weak actually needs strength from YHWH cos it’s hard. So if you lack self-Love being weak in YHWH will be 1000000000000x times harder for you. 
 
satanas loves it when you are in this state of turmoil; lacking self-Love and accommodating character traits, personality pathologies and strongholds. Because in that state you won’t self-reflect, change, and grow for the better. You also will not have genuine time for YHWH. You will be distracted with the lack of Self-Love screaming within and your attempt to fix it your way.
satanas will send more things and people (yes people to) to promote the turmoil and lack of self-Love.
 
When you have a foundation of self-Love; when things come to challenge you as they come for everyone, it is likely not going to shake your view of self and life. You will not view yourself through the eyes of society family or anyone; you will be confident and stand knowing Who you are and Whose you are. Yes, hurt probably you will feel but it will be hurt that is linked to the experience not hurt because of a lack of self-Love. When you lack self-Love your hurt is super exaggerated and compounded.  
Cliché says it all starts with you. Take the time daily to get to know you better, to understand you under the leadership of our Elohim. Love and embrace you. Develop self-Love guided by Him, it is possible even if you have never felt Love from anyone or you have never Loved yourself. 
 
Love yourself genuinely from within, with all that you have or that you lack and all your mistakes. Take responsibility for bad choices and face consequences. Know that you are worthy and good enough and nothing or anyone is needed to make you worthy. Forgive self or others if you need to. Know that life is not fair. Surrender and be totally weak to YHWH. Love yourself fully and genuinely. Do not be proud, arrogant or narcissistic. Self-Love makes the challenging journey we are on bearable and the challenges are not compounded. Self-Love is needed for you to bask in YHWH’s Shalom. Self-Love will help you not make poor compromising choices that will impact you negatively because you will know and understand your worth. You will not stand situations that belittle you when you have Self-Love. satanas’ sent people will try to bring doubt about your worth, but when you know your worth and have Self-Love they will fail. 

1Corinthians 13:1-13 states some of the things Love is. Love we need to have for Elohim, Holy Trinity, ALWAYS and FIRST!!! we need to show others and ourselves Love! Love we are commanded to have for our  Elohim.. and we are commanded to have Love for others, even those who hurt us, and those we do not know...

We also need to Love ourselves...  
Do you experience what is in the verse about you? Are you Patient with others and with yourself, are you Kind to others and to you? Are you proud? rude? or selfish?
Do you hold record of your own wrongs? or of others?

The verse encourages us to Pursue Love in all its fullness (YHWH is FIRST LOVE, Love for others, strangers included and even Self Love) because it the greatest thing to pursue! Without it nothing matters. YHWH is Love and therefore we need to pursue Love! Genuine Love for others, including strangers and Self! Do you?????

 
 
Let us Pray:
Toda {Thank You} יהוה (Yud Heh Vav Heh commonly written as YHWH), Toda Mashiyach Yeshua, Toda Ruach Ha Kodesh and Toda Angels and Armies of יהוה. We cover everyone and everything around us with the Blood of Mashiyach Yeshua and humbly ask you יהוה (Yud-Heh-Vav-Heh {YHWH}) to send Angels to bind any attack aimed at those things, people or us. Toda raba {Thank you so much} for Your Love, Grace and Mercy. Toda {Thank You} for Your Son Whom You sent to die on the Cross so that we could live. As we continue on our journeys we Pray יהוה (Yud-Heh-Vav-Heh {YHWH}) that our Spiritual beings hear and grow so that we can Serve You in the Manner we are meant to. Help us Elohim to develop Characters of Mashiakim Yehudim that we were destined to have in Yeshua HaMashiyach’s Hashem! Amen! 
 
 
 
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